Hi Mya, your story is so like mine, but we've been together 17 years. Well we were apart for 2 and been back together for 4 months. It is the not talking that I find hard, I always think if we could talk about this we could sort it out, but after reading Michelle's books I'm not so sure. Sometimes I feel our realtionship is like a glass of fizzy pop,it works very well at an effervescent superficial level but there really isn't anything underneath either.