Me and Heywyre, you guys are right on target. At first I was excited that there might be a chance to reconcile, but after I thought about it I really started getting po'd. If you want to work on things then say so, I feel like she wants to keep dating and if nothing better comes along I will settle for you. BS! The other side of me does knowledge that she was so bitter and angry for so long, that her wall is finally coming down. I think because she was so sure she would never want me, she is a little aprehensve to be vulnerable. As far as being afraid she may lose me, I was in a serious relationship that ended in 10/06 for about 7 months and she knew about that one and never said boo. In fact she was still in her bitter mood. I do beleive that by me treating with dignity and respect as a friend so has released all of her toxic feelings and can she a little more clearly. She does say she has changed, if she has made enough changes I don't know. The woman I am involved with is a very good friend and I plan on discussing all this with her and backing the relationship off a little until I resolve my issues. Just for the record my stich involved me working too much and basically not spending quality time with her, which is LL. Our D was over communication, she would yell instead of discussing and of course I would withdraw. I have down a complete 180 from who I was and know for a fact she won't find anybody else that has done the soul searching that I have and the rest of us on this board that work so hard to save our marriages. I am willing to show her a terrific realtionship but she neess to earn that back from me.
