Thanks for the input. Jack the reason I thought that replay might have sub stages is that I read someone talk about 'deep replay' on another thread.
LiN, cheers.
D still had nightmares last night, though not quite so bad. They are all about ME leaving her. I am going to talk to my C about them on Friday, thanks for the suggestion. At the weekend W and I agreed that she wouldn't see D while she was so unsettled as seeing W seems to make her worse, not better. W is obviously finding that difficult and texted me last night to say that she thought it would be best for D to see her. I was quite angry so haven't texted back. She isn't here to see D's problems at night and I think she is in no position to say what's best for her at the moment. She opted out. It is because she's missing her herself, understandably, but I think she's thinking about her own needs and not D's. I haven't got back to her because I don't want contact when I feel angry, but really, she's the one who couldn't see her on Sunday morning because she was out all night on Saturday. She wants to see her on her terms. I genuinely have D's best interests at heart and whilst I can't be certain it's the right decision, at the moment the contact seems to make D more unsettled. I'd welcome comments from any other parents on that one.
W left a VM yesterday about the sale of the house. My mum said she sounded weird, strained and depressed on it. I couldn't see(hear?) it myself but my mum has suffered from depression for years and says she just recognises the signs.
LiN I have read DR and it is a version of LRT that I'm following. I am doing that purely to protect myself at the moment as I know that more regular and friend type contact throws me still. I don't mean to punish her, I still love her in spite of everything.
I am getting stronger week by week. I'm amazed at how resilient we human beings really are. Hope you're having a good day.
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