He said he's seeing someone new

[Ophelia]

Got a reply from H's L today. On the first page when they mention the calculation for the cash payment I'd get they make sure to add that, "we believe that our clients offer to you is substantially higher than that which we believe would be awarded to you should this matter proceed to the Federal Magistrates Court."

On the final page it says that I have until March 14th to respond, and if I don't then they, "reserve our right to withdraw this offer to settle at that time." Which I guess means it then gets nasty.

They've also asked for a statement of my life insurance policy, which at this point hasn't been included in any calculations. I don't actually think I've made any payments on that policy since I turned 18. Last time I looked, I think I was almost $1000 behind in payments. The bills still get sent to my parents' address, and it's still in my maiden name. That should give you an idea of how long it's been since I really even looked at that policy.

They also attached photocopies of things I asked for as proof of values and stuff like that. One of them is a credit card statement. It seems that even though I didn't actually get anything from this L until late January, H had actually gone to see them on Nov 29!!

On Nov 17th he paid out $150 at a resturaunt/wine bar, so I guess that gives me an idea of how long he's been with OW.

On Dec 1 he spent $300 on tickets to something or other. I'm really trying to remember what date our last C session was on, because I don't remember if it was late Nov or early Dec, but I do remember mentioning to H as he was driving me home and I was trying to make smalltalk that I'd seen that tickets for John Mayer were going on sale the following week, (and something tells me the date was Dec 1 that tickets went on sale, I remember it being a distinctive kinda date, like the 1st of the month). He commented that he probably wouldn't go.

There's also a payment of $466 around the beginning of Nov and it says it was to a real estate agent, but in Balmain, which is interstate, which makes no sense at all.

Anyway, I've managed to assume from this credit card statement that he started dating OW at least mid-Nov if not earlier. So that would have been only a month and a half after he moved out, and it would have been when we were still in C! So now I'm getting obsessed over knowing details of the A again. It's taking all my willpower not to ask him for another C session so I can get the details, (before I agree to any kind of legal settlement) with someone else there to mediate. If he was already seeing OW when he was still going to C sessions with me, then I wanna know!

Since November?!?!? Seriously?!?! He left it til the end of January to tell me about it, but he'd been seeing someone else since FREAKING NOVEMBER?!?! He was looking me in the eye at C sessions, (actually, he did find it hard to look me in the eye), when all the while he was already with someone else?!? Lord knows I deserve to be treated better than that! Lord knows that after all the talking he did behind my back before he even left, that I deserved a bit if freaking honesty, but he was too gutless to tell me about his little A until it had been going on for at least a couple of months!!!! Just thinking that I was actually in his presence, and he was keeping that from me, lying to my face, makes me so freaking angry!! Makes me feel dirty, and used.

I want some answers, dammit! I want to know exactly how long it is I've been lied to about his A. Don't I deserve that? I don't suppose there's any way I can ask him about it though, is there? Because he doesn't think he has a damn thing to answer for.