I always love your posts they are guaranteed to make me feel better, thank you. Now can I have a dispensation to make my next post about me me me please as I need to talk about the points you've raised!! PLEEEEAASE?
Firstly I love Inbliss as a new name!! I will change my name to that right away!
I have read Gary Chapman's book yes and it made a lot of sense to me. I already knew really that my PLL's are ML and quality time. I haven't really managed to figure out what H's main one is and I kind of explained a little of it to him and he said he thought all of them together were his!?!? If his are based primarily on what he does for me is what he would like then it is receiving gifts and acts of service.
You are right on the mirrors thing too because if I act like I'm great H seems great too.
I haven't made a gf no. I honestly wouldn't know where to start. I started going to parent and toddler sessions when H left with that aim for me as well as for S but being in a small village it really is very mumsy lets stay at home and bake cakes kind of a gathering. Which I haven't a problem with as I do that too but what I mean is noone seems to be itching for a friend if you know what I mean.
I will set another goal to not mention ML for a week. I actually made that promise to myself last Tues but broke it on Friday. That was still quite good for me though so I will try again starting now. I already fluffed it up tonight as I felt at the end of my tether and just wanted to scream. I just don't understand the needing time thing and that is that. H has said that we both want a complete R so the only obstacle is time.??????? I don't get this. There must be an obstacle stopping it happening now. Time is the cure for the obstacle not the obstacle itself. ( hope you followed that)
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And H saying that he loves you it as good as saying ILY.
Yes I think so too. Tonight he said he loves me more than anyone else in the whole world. That has made me soooo happy to hear those words I cannot describe.
OK POSITIVE THINKING HERE........MY D IS WELL AND TRULY BUSTED AND I'M CHANGING MY NAME TO INBLISS.......!!!!
Edited to say - I've just tried to change my name and it doesn't look like you can anymore or else I'm being really dumb. Anyone know how?
