Stubborn, I don't bother with it. It got to me not long ago because W was on the phone to her every night BUT do I want her on the phone or over at OW's house every night? It's a tough call and you made it. Now, what to you do? She's called your bluff but again may be just blowing wind herself. I'm not saying that making the request is necessarily a negative thing BUT it's a biggy to make. I'm just not sure why the DB coach thought it was such a hot idea in the first place? To ask her to speak to you in a certain way or put away her friggin dishes or something like that makes sense but to go for communication with the OW strikes me as the big enchilada. In other words, I think you have to be prepared to back up such a request or why make it? I guess you can say you would like her to respect it but if she can't/won't than that's up to her. Unless you're willing to back it up with some other big weapon, I don't know what else to suggest. I would look at whether there were times that you were able to deal with her constant communication with OW. What was different then? What did you do to make this managable for yourself? Are any of those things possible again? Also, are there times when S doesn't spend so much time communicating with OW. What was happening then, what was different, what was your part in making that happen? Can any of it be repeated. Just some thoughts for you to ponder. Let us know how it all goes, and especially, if you need some support!
