Stepped up last night and told spouse I didn't want her emailing her lover from our home. That has been going on all along. Enough. We had another "tiff" over the weekend because I spoke to spouse about another behavior/habit of hers that bothers me. She got really mad (as she sometimes does) but cooled down by the next day and the storm blew over. I remind myself that she gets mad and THEN SHE GETS OVER IT. So last night I went for it. DB coach had told me this was a reasonable request and suggested spouses anger was just that: her anger, who cares? So spouse considers it awhile and says she can't do that so do I want her to get her own place? I say it's not MY decision. Spouse: Do you want this, do you want that? Me: that's not up to ME. Conversation continued about how spouse hasn't enjoyed hurting me (what comfort, she's thoughtless, not sadistic) Do I want to go back to MC and work out plan as to what is best for D7? Spouse thinks she will have her 50% of the time. Though I have not said it outloud, I do not think 50/50 is in the best interest of any child. Children are not property to be divided equally. And I have no legal obligation to that. My obligation is to daughter. And the decision to leave or stay is up to spouse. Spouse also wanted to know if I wanted to go to MC before or after we go on spring vacation? (incongruous, anyone?)
so this sucks and no surprise there. It was pretty calm with only a few tacky moments. Lost my cool and pointed out that I paid for computer. bad thing to say and I apologized but...later spouse came and asked if she could watch "tv that you paid for". pisser. How did/do other people in this sitch handle the communicating with OW thing? Listening to clicky clack on the keyboard while I'm right in the other room maybe shouldn't be such a big deal but FFFK enough already. I'm ready for someone to say something here: Whatsis, Julie etal, get in here and tell me what you think or what worked for you or didn't work. (I don't know that I really believe she can leave daughter so part of me is somewhat calm) speak, anybody. THIS SUCKS
I have a shovel and I'm not afraid to use it. Stubby
