These are all good signs. His overture to you with the wine, passed through the kids, is tacky, but... let's give him credit where credit is due... he's inching out of his comfort zone. Flash him a BIG ole' smile and tell your daughter to tell her daddy how wonderful he makes you all feel.
CATCH HIM BEING GOOD, Heather, and do not let ONE instance pass without notice and encouragement from you. He'll begin to mirror you. Hesitantly, at first, kind of backhanded... but he'll get it.
As an example, remember a few pages back on your very own thread when I gave Cobra a compliment and he sputtered and nearly fell over... but he liked it.
