I meant a month for him to decide if he wants this M enough to make change. I'm not going to fall back into the same old patterns and accept the old marriage back. No way. I can give more than a month, and reasonably have to, if we're both giving. Our issues can't be solved in a month, but a month is sure as heck long enough to decide if he agrees changes need to be made.
He has a valid concern with the commitment issue. But in the past, he's not been willing to define what being 'committed' means. It seems that now he is defining it as just being present with no talk of leaving. I can do that.
His actions are increased affection, a more obvious concern for my feelings, willingness to talk, not burying his head in the sand. Last night he bought me a bottle of wine, which was nice. He passed it off 'show Mommy what we got for her...', which is a little tacky, but it's still trying. I mean, I know my four year old didn't suggest buying Mommy a bottle of wine. If she did, perhaps I should re-evaluate my drinking habits, eh?!
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
