I think you did great. And I think a year is doable, especially for him. Good job.
And I hate to tell you, sis, but you are already 'giving.' And you did it by hearing him, acknowledging him, not blowing up at him for his view (you only want to get your way), but you didn't back off of your view, either.
One thing I think you could say to him is, "H, please understand that I don't want MY way. But I do want an 'OUR' way, and I can't do that without you. That could be why it seems like I am so persistant in getting MY way. I want to work with you, and I'm willing to go slow. I'm still not sure of all the things I want out of our new R, but the one thing I do know that I want for US, is for me to be back in OUR bed."
You are learning patience, Heather. I'm so proud of you.
