PS - ourcrisis - i don't usually post here but over on fortysixty forum. My husband is very definitely in the grip of mid life crisis - that's why DBing alone doesn't work for me. I just had to answer cos you are in my exact sitch (minus the abortion, fake or not) four months ago. It occurs to me that if you have been married /together 20 years and this is the first of this type of behaviour is it possible your h is in mid life crisis? Pop over to the 4060 and check it out - there is a MLC quiz you could do for him. It's a very real phenomena - hits the most decent and moral men the hardest. And there are different strategies for dealing with it than ordinary adultery.
Me 42 H 45 3 kids, 22,12, 7. OW 25 Married 24 years.
