Piecing together, or not?

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J-
So sorry to hear/read how your sitch is going. You've given so much good advise and seem to understand so much, but this sitch is difficult.

Do you want validation? You've got it. Obviously, reading what I have, and just here on this board, I can't know the whole sitch, but from what I do know, your H is difficult. He seems to have some issues, maybe they require counseling. You've identified his need to keep moving, changing, that it's never enough. What could cause that? Why can't he be satisfied? Interesting, but probably not the most important question right now.

I'm thinking the question is what should you do. What I want to tell you is don't go to AK. Especially if your Ds will be happier where you are, don't go. (like always, my view is tinted by my own sitch, but I'm trying to be objective). That's what I want to tell you. I want you to have permission, give yourself permission, to do what you feel you should. But, I won't tell you that b/c I'm not confident of my answer. Lot of help, huh?

I guess it doesn't have to be go or divorce. You've not divorced yet. Maybe one of the smart people who give you advice can see alternatives. Maybe your H will have a sudden realization.

I'm hurting for you J. It doesn't seem fair. Maybe the future still holds some surprises though.