8, getting back to the "boot her to the curb or not" question. I have always felt that this approach was when 1) I just couldn't emotionally handle the sitch anymore or 2) when I felt there was absolutely nothing else I could conceive of trying, in other words, I give up so lets get on with our lives! I've never viewed it as a means to save the M. I have trouble imagining any woman, after failing miserably in this new life you made for her, crawling back and saying "Oh take me back, I was so wrong, you are so wonderful" I tend to think kicking her out would be just another reason for her to build resentment. Now, if she chooses to leave that is a different story, in my mind, because she chose, not you. To me, kicking her to the curb means IT'S OVER. Just more of my obsessive thoughts on this question. Oh, and how the heck do you get her to leave? Legally, she has as much right to be in the home as you do regardless of who is the lawful owner? Changing the locks just means she gets a court order to allow her back into the home. Not pretty!
