You know, as a woman who stayed faithful to her H for 20 years, I can honestly tell you I know that it was not for lack of opportunity. What tempted me? The openness, the laughter, the warmth that these guys had. Often they would want to play, to have fun, something my marriage with all the responsibilities of household chores and financial responsibility and children did not provide. Did I give in to temptation? No. Did I resent that my husband couldn't invite me to have fun or respond when I invited him? Yes. Did I want him to laugh and tease and look me in the eye and tell me he wanted to f..k me more than anything just like in the old days? Hell yes. Did he? No. Was he tempted by others? Yes. Are we separated? Yes. Does he blame himself or me? I'll let you guess but here is a clue. He left me for the EA. In a nutshell I'd say get your gumption on. Take her dancing, laugh, dance with her in the rain, hold her hand and look her straight in the eye and tell her you want her more than anything, before she walks out the door. Take it from one who took rejection too personally and never got the gumption to do the romantic thing.
