I am very sorry. I also think that you will be just fine. I had scads of people do the "what took you so long" when ex-H and I split. It seems that many people weren't too impressed with him including some of his friends.
We didn't really have an acrimonious D. H didn't "show up" for it - just like the rest of his life. He was as non-participatory as possible. Currently, he hasn't seen the kids in about a year. He has been in arrears on more occasions than I can count. I don't react if he sees the kids or not. I don't react if he pays or not (the state does). By the time of the D, I was ready. I suspect you are too. He wasn't and would occasionally tell me what a horrible person I was and I would say that he was entitled to his opinion but I had to hang up. Occasionally, he would get sentimental and try to win me back. I would say that I understood the feelings but he needed to remember how unhappy he had been. My point? Don't let anything surprise you.
