Life of Job

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Whatis, thank you for your continued input. I too would welcome others with either experience. My observation that the "keep them home" model has not to date, brought you success, was more along the lines of what you have commented on elsewhere, situations are different and what works for one may not work for another.

I do appreciate the fact that the choice to show her the door is dramatic and therefore requires additional considaration. Once it is thrown out there you have to back it up, and once they leave you have lost many opportunities, by the same token, if what you have been doing is not working, at some point you need to try something different.

I have gotten the impression that part of my wife's complaint is my not paying enough attention to her, so going dark and/or asking her to leave both have significant potential downsides. Right now she is not admitting to lacking anything. She is in the same home, her bills are paid, she has started a new rewarding job, our belts are off our backbones, insurance is in place, her truck is being paid for, her children are cared for, she has the friendship of the man she has been with for 26 years and knows her better than anyone else in the world, and the emotional fulfillment of her love affair with OM.

WHY WOULD SHE CHANGE HER MIND?

I know be an awesome new me and wait for the affair to sour, but then where does that leave me in terms of the relationship?