Jenny, It sounds positively civil! I remember that feeling of my H just seeing me through his distorted lens, when I knew inside there was so much more to me. I believe with the separation/divorce, your H will begin to see you in a new light. But more importantly, you'll be able to flex the parts of you that have been caged. In that way, change is exciting. I am about 10 percent sad for you and 90 percent happy; maybe it's because I have followed your saga for so long, and maybe it's because a part of me over-identifies with your struggles and wants to see you blossom.
