starting the long journey

[jamespb75]

Well, My W went out last night with her friend. They had a good time. It felt good to see her coming home after having a good time out. She needs it. She sits in the house thinking about OM, and it drives her nuts.

I did come home yesterday and they were on the phone. I did very well, she hung up the phone and mumbled F-ing d--k. She was upset and I just asked you o.k., she called her parents and then her boss. After she got off the phone I asked her if she wanted to vent, because I would listen. So here we go. Again she says she hates him and he is an as---ole. I asked her if it was o.k. to talk to me about this and she was fine with it. So we talked like friends about it, and she was very negative towards him. She does this everytime, gets off the phone and is PO'D at him. So she went on about things and we had a very good talk. I asked her why does she want him so bad. She says women are like that, they are attracted to the As--oles, and the nice guys are pushed to the side. She said she knows that she is being stupid and she knows she needs to stop, but she says it's hard. I did good and didn't tell her how I felt, didn't talk about our M. I was strong.

I don't know if these talks are the right thing to do, but I know she needs to let go and vent. I get some reassurance in them, but I only give her positive advice about herself. I build her back up. I just need to hang on, and keep my emotions away from my reactions. She leaves today to go work in a different area, I am nervous, but I think it needs to be. I was able to give her a hug last night before I went to bed, It felt good.