Hi Snodderly, Hard to believe how fast the weekend has gone by. Spent yesterday shopping with d11 and then when we came home s14 wanted to go get some things. It was nice to be able to shop with them (thank you uncle sam and tax refund). They really needed it!! Talked to H briefly before d11 and I went out in the morning. He still has the anger in his tone and I just gave him the fact about our weekend plans. He had to work last night and that was fine with me. S14 had age group swim championships today so d11 and I went with him bright and early this morning. He did excellent. I thought that H might show up but he didn't. Too bad. S14 got his first individual gold medal in 9 years!! It was so sad his father was not there to see it. Even though he is angry at h, i feel that he should have been there to watch his son.
When we left the pool H called my cell. I let d11 answer it. He asked her to call when we got home which she did. She made plans with a friend and he said maybe he would stop by later I am not sure if he will because my father is here and h wants to avoid him...keeps telling d11 that he doesn't want to see my dad because he doesn't want to get in a fight with him. Anyway, d11 told me she told H that she didn't want to spend the night with him tomorrow. UGH... I am sure I will hear about this from H. I have done nothing but encourage her to spend monday nights with H but I will get the rap for this.
No calls in the middle of the night the past 2 nights from my anonymous source. I am trying to let go and put him out of my mind, but this whole credit card thing is getting so blown up. I wonder if he will ever take accountability for what he has done or if this is how it will be forever. The anger and the blame blocking the exit to the MLC tunnel.
Anyway, tomorrow H and I have an appt. with C. C told me friday he is going to sit and talk to each of us seperately to see what our goals are. C suggested mine be stronger boundaries but I am not sure. This has to be about s14 and I have to think about it for a while. It will be the first time I have seen H since last monday (unless he does stop by later).
Oh, and d11 and I shopped for his birthday. She picked out a shirt for him and I got him a gift card. Nothing big just a token. She kept suggesting I get him something more personal, like cologne, but I told her, and maybe I shouldn't have, that perhaps MOW should be the one to get him something like that. She got a funny look on her face (which made me think MOW isn't around anymore) and said, mom your his wife you should. Out of the mouth of babes.
Not sure how much longer this anger phase will last. Bills are pooring in and he hasn't given me $$ in a while. He said a few weeks ago that new job isn't working out and I am scared that he really doesn't have any money. I just wonder how he will handle this if and when I filed for support through the court.
Thanks again for checking on me. I will post again if anything interesting happens. I am trying not to analize everything, but I really am so dumbfounded as to what is going to happen with this situation. I wish it was like I book and I could read the last chapter.
