This is where it gets a bit interesting. What you have to do, is invite him into a new relationship, not demand. It may take him some time for him to get used to the current changes.
Just so I don't forget; It is imperative that you never mention "wishing that you hadn't sold your truck", no matter how bad an argument, or how hurt your feelings get. Simply put, he has used your action as an anchoring point where he can call a stop to his emotional pain. Most guys don't handle emotional pain very well. If they can attribute a positive action or a truth to the situation, then they can lay their pain down.
I like the letter and the invitation for continued discourse. Mentioning the "new relationship" is good, but don't force it on him just yet. Give him time to be heard.
Having said that, it is ultimately you that will have to call time on how long you will wait. I am hoping that he will step up and take the first step. It is something that HE needs to do, for the sake of both of you.
He needs to let go of the affair. You have given him a point of reprieve. The next step is up to him. He can decide to move on, or continue to wallow. You need to wait a reasonable amount of time for him to make that decision.
You will know when enough is enough. In the mean time, keep selling the "new relationship" It will eventually dawn on him to ask you to explain it to him. Guys are a bit slow on relational uptake at times :-)
One last thing, expect bumps. Don't be discouraged, they WILL happen. Just stay in control of the vehicle and return to the straight and narrow - a new relationship with your hubby.
Good letter, send it to him.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
