He cannot get over the OW help us...

[Heartbroken]

Thanks for your thoughts - my Mom could not understand how I had sex with him after he'd been with Ow - I said how was it any diff from when he was with me AND her from late Nov. until 1/6 when he finally admitted there even was an Ow. The only reason I did not have him move out in Jan. was that he told me he was thru with her and wanted to work on us. It took the uncovering of another set of lies to help me push him out completely. I cannot live with H at home still seeing/talking/f**cking her. I saw myself these last two days checking his cell and snooping on him -for my peace of mind I have to let him go.

THis was the worst day of my life - maybe D will be easier because by then I will be a diff person and may not even want or love him as much as I do now. He is the one taking the huge risk now - the shock waves are starting to go thru our social circle (due to Ow and her ex) and we should be the talk of the town for the next 6 plus mos or so. I fear for my kids sakes...

I was SO SAD last night and today I am kinda numb. H wants to go grocery shopping together so we can work to save money putting food into two households....

I wonder what the Ow would think of H letting me control the finances still. H wants to let me see everything coming and going financially and he swears he will not give her money....who knows what I can believe at this point...

Thanks for your feedback!