Heartbroken,
I am SO proud of you!!! It sounds like you really kept it together. You made a connection with your H when ML and that counts! My H says that I mess up his head when we ML. I have done a complete 180 and it's blowing his mind! Plus, the OW feels like MY H is cheating on her.. ha!

Now is for sure the time to work on you!

How'd it go with your kids?