I just spoke with my W a little while ago. Yesterday the plan was she would spend the night at her brother's house tonight, and then we would see each other at Church in the morning, and she would return home with me in the afternoon.
Well she just informed me she was planning on staying over there tomorrow night too, and I said that's fine, and tried to act nonchalant.
However, after I got off the phone with her, I noticed that a good portion of her clothing and a suitcase is gone. It's too late to call her brother's house, so I guess I will have to wait until tomorrow to find out what the true situation is, however, right now, it looks like the separation is official.
We had talked 3 or 4 weeks ago about possibly doing a "controlled separation" where we would negotiate a fixed time period, agreements on frequency and types of communication, and possibly seeing each once a week to catch up with each other. I did not want a separation, but I figured if that is what she was pushing for, a separation with clearly defined understandings would be best, and she seemed amenable to that.
But now it looks like she has initiated the separation with no notification or discussion with me.
I'll get the official version tomorrow, and deal with the facts as best I can.
Me 46 WAW 45 M 21 yrs
WAW: "I need to be alone" 12/06 W moves out 3/07 Mediation finalized 08/08
