alone I am sorry to hear about your situation. I know that one positive that has come out of this for me is finding my spirituality. I recommend a book by Joyce Meyers called Battlefield of the Mind. I am taking a class actually on this. You can also find helpful information at Joycemeyer.org. there are articles and things. I am getting my copy of Divorce Remedy next week. I sure hope that the no contact works. The way that I figure is that I tried everything else so why not try this. As a man, do you prefer to do the chasing? I am thinking that this whole thing works differenly depending on if you are a man or woman.