How the heck did you guess Corri?! It was a really, really hard decision.....he was being very persistent. I told him I wanted to but that there were still too many unknowns. Later on he said "I do love you, you know". That was it. There was no other way to express myself at that moment than to ML to him.
You just explained for yourself why it happened.
And that is what I mean. Your emotions, for both of you, ARE running high, and that isn't a bad thing. It may continue, and it could very well feel like a second honeymoon, along with the whole 'chemical' resurgance akin to the dating phase.
It'll fade a bit faster, but that's what you have to prepare for, because LIFE will come back into the picture, and you two may begin to struggle again.
That is why, I think, it is so very important for you to follow NOPs advice. When you hit bumpy periods, it is critical for you to keep your anger, annoyance or 'fatalistic' thoughts under control. The goal is to negotiate a new way of interacting with one another, problem-solving together, rather than 'getting your way.' (For either one of you).
So maybe when you are thinking about what you want from this new R, you can put that in there somewhere... how the two of you might handle the 'bumpy' periods. Maybe a mandatory 'cool off' period before you discuss an issue, an agreement to allow the other to walk away if emotions get to high, and not taking it personal... repeating back to one another what you thought the other just said... and then believing the person when they say, 'no, I meant this,' instead of your interpretation.
It'll be just as important for him to learn how to do this as you, but you can do it.
The truck thing was really, really big for him, and I give NOPs all kinds of credit for thinking of that one. I give you all kinds of credit for doing it, being a CPA and all.
Baby steps, honey. The Dr. Laura books are really good.
