The sex thing has been addressed. When all of this started my wife told me on a Thursday night that she possibly wanted a divorce. The next day I was in my GP's office. I was looking for a solution or at least an answer for my physically low sex drive. Now understand, not all of this issue is biological. I'd say that the far greater portion or our issues are mental or emotionally based. Unfortunately, these issues are not so quickly or easily corrected.
My GP checked me for low test. and found the culprit to my physical problems. The following week I met with a urologist and was placed on test. replacement therapy. About 2-3 weeks ago I had the test. pellets implanted in my hip. I can honestly say that I can now get a boner so hard that a cat can't scratch it. Don't ask me how I know this, just take my word for it!
My wife has been kept abreast of all of this. She has been given the same material that I was given about this condition. I asked her, at my urologist's request, to go to the last visit with me (when the pellets were implanted)--she wouldn't go.
Our sole sex problem is no longer physical. She has been crushed emotionally (her words) because for seven years I did nothing sexual with her. She's pissed as hell that it took this, the threat of divorce, to get me off of my ass and look into this problem (again, her words). Yep, I have agreed to all of that and have told her so. She doesn't like to hear that for seven years she also did not do a thing to address this issue. I have expressed to her my complaints about the way I have been treated in our relationship going back about nine years, and have told her that until those issues are worked on and corrected we still wouldn't be smoking the sheets. Guess what, it's all my damn fault (her words).
As far as the marriage counseling goes, that's a question our counselor would have to answer. This lady, counselor, came highly recommended by my GP (a man that I have full confidence in). I called a few other counselors in our area to get their views on this woman and was told that she had an excellent track record and was great at her business. I certainly did not want a quack for this.
She was so booked up that I was told that she didn't have an opening until Feb., remember that this all occured in late Nov.-early Dec. I asked my GP to see what he could do. The counselor, not her receptionist, called me that same week and we scheduled appointments for my wife and myself the following week. It was the counselors call to see us individually in the initial stages of this. Hell, it was all for naught as my wife wouldn't go again after the second visit. She would only go back if we used the counselor as a mediator. I hired an attorney fot that.
