Quote: --------------------------------------------------------- I have no idea how the heck I am going to balance stating my needs without him perceiving that I am making demands. ---------------------------------------------------------
The start to the negotiation is when both parties agree that there is something to negotiate. It is clear that your old relationship could not continue as is. Your husband has made a move back toward you as you have to him. It is unimportant who moved first, just that it happened.
You have already been using the phrase "new relationship". At what seems like an appropriate time to you (no egg shell walking), come right out and ask your hubby what he would think if there was a way that the two of you could have a new relationship that works for both of you. Ask him what the relationship would look like from his perspective, then tell him what it would look like from yours.
Tell him that you want to meet his needs in the relationship, then tell him about the book, and use it as a catalyst for addressing the changes. Let the book be the mediator. That way, neither one of you is leading, you are on equal footing.
Are you following me so far?
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
