Life of Job

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Whatis;
I mean this with all respect but, how has it worked for you?

I know and respect the fact that you have been at this WAY longer then me, and you have been there and done that, but by your own admition, it ain't going so good.

I in no way mean to imply that you should have or could have done things differently, only bring up the point that it has not got you where you want to be.

I agree with you that each of us is the expert on our own situation, and I think all to often we come here looking for someone else to "tell" us what we should do.

The reality for me is that my wife has discounted my feelings down to zero. Does she think I have done that to her? Most likely. Does that mean I have? NO.

As I understand it, the heart of DB is twofold, GAL which strengthens us and shows us that we can survive w/out her, and gives her an alternative to the "old" us, and LRT, 180,etc. which alters the "same old" dynamics of our failed relationships.

I don't know if you agree, but to me the basic premise of an affair is a lack of respect for your partner, and a sense of entitlement. Because of this, I deserve that.

DB may, and in my case certainly has, slowed my wife from a runaway to a walk away wife, but does nothing to adress the underlying lack of respect(not in a macho, submission way, but in a general sense), and sense of intitlement.

She feels the way she feels for many "valid" reasons, but her response is NOT valid, and at this point there have been no reprocussions.

I still think it is time to introduce some negative reinforcements.