Hi karen Please be careful you two of castigating career women
Please point out to me in my post where I did this, so I can see how my words are coming across. I dont see it. IRL, I voulunteer with a program that teaches women too handle their finances. Their is a huge discrepancy in the numbers of single women compared to single men who wind up in bankruptcy. I lurk at the other BB to see what how the other women are doing it. Invariably the convos turn to R's. Almost every single one of them is ok or has accepted they make the money. Most of them wish their H's would step up in the R though.
Its not about money, its about how you deal with the R. If she was a golddigger she wouldnt be there.
Abyss this sentence is corrected to read.. Your W has so much masculine energy in her business and social life you slipped into assuming she wanted that position in your M.
Abyss, Its not your W's fault that you didnt set boundaries the past few years. Your newly acquired Testosterone is likely having an effect on your emotions. Im curious what your levels were prior, and what they are now. Your welcome to vent and be pissed off here, but get a grip on your anger IRL your W can feel it. Work on your self esteem, and work on the issues that are stressing you out and your anger will diminish. You cant force your wife to stay, but you can require to be treated decently.
The woman who I call x, has a master in Political Science and has a director position with the government, and works closely with various elected officials. I wouldnt call her technique aggressive, but she is in her position because of her ability to get what she wants. Is that the resume you were looking for?
My friend, I don't agree with your view of earning respect. Thats your choice. You give another person respect until they do something to warrant no longer being respected. Its good to not be DIS-respectful, but respect is an emotion. Its earned, not given. Being a peace maker and keeping peace in your house, marriage, the world, etc. is not a reason to disrespect someone. If anything, those people should be admired. You can operate with shoulds, or you can accept what is, and start working on your M I understand what you're saying, but my spouse has had no reason to disrespect me other than HER own screwed up way of viewing me in our relationship. In this comment, your disrespecting her for seeing things differantly then you. Your not accepting her. Isnt that what you want from her? I have always kept my word with this crazy a** woman. If she were to post here, Im sure it would soon become apparent that this is not true. If I have not kept my word with anyone in this marriage, it's been not keeping my word with myself.
Good. I like that last one. Time to start being true to yourself, and honest with her, about what you want, WITHOUT anger or cruelty. I know how the anger slips out, its mostly why Im D. If you dont want a D, and more importantly want to respect yourself, get a grip on it.
Id like to know if your T levels are over 600, or if it has increased more then 200 points. Do some research, take care of your health. As for being pissed at me, good. Im sure Ill do it alot more. Quit stamping your foot and saying should, and get cracking.
