"There is no such thing as bad weather if you dress properly for it.".
I love that one. "There is no bad weather, just bad clothes."
It's interesting to me that you found my H's remark to be mean. I just thought it was depressing.
Your the one who it affected in a negative way. Your the one who needs to set boundaries and protect yourself.
Don't confuse supplication with honoring a contract.
I dont, my point was its a lot easier to point at a concrete reason for our dissatisfaction with our mate, then it is to own our own feelings and set boundaries. My examples were typical male statements conveying what that looks like when its the female telling him to change concrete things that have nothing to do with the problem.
Thank you for your diagrams. That was brilliant.
BF, clearly your problem is that your X was very lovable and sexy because she was girlish and high-drive and therefore emanating a bunny/monkey spirit but she lacked maturity so she couldn't honor a contract or care for you with a generous spirit. This is why you don't respect women. This is why I told you to ask a woman to have sex with you after you meet her halfway across the field. If you have a sexual relationship with a woman who is more in touch with her cow and/or lioness, you will feel safer and more secure in your relationship. You don't have to do all the work just because you're the male.
I can see why it appears that way here, but no. IRL I appeal to the lion and the monkey. I dont allow the cow, Its not her job to be my cow, and its not my responsibility to take care of her bunny. Its her's. I appeal to the lioness, becasue I neither ask nor tell. They 'know' what I want and they come to me, or not. I dont care. Once they come to me I appeal to the monkey. Sometimes I flip flop these two. Depends on how busy I am.
I gave x a chance to operate from the cow, and expected her to honor her lioness. She was too busy getting her bunny taken care of. When I wanted her back I appealed to the bunny and required the cow. We allready knew about the monkey, although it didnt hurt to hint at it. Being forced to require the cow seems innately unfeminine. I didnt beleive in her lioness anymore. I checked inappropriately for it once and the bunny hopped away.
edited to say HOWEVER, I did not honor the implicit agreement of Lions. end of edit
I refuse to appeal to the bunny. It sets up a unhealthy dynamic with inappropriate and unreasonable implicit expectations. OM is very succesful because he understands how to wait for the bunny to come out. In reality he is an eagle. Sucks for the bunny. Fortunately for the eagle they propagate constantly.
You don't have to do all the work just because you're the male Your right. I thought that was what I was trying to help guys understand.
Im curious what is differant about your H now, then when you made your original contract with him. From what you say it seems like he is stepping up to the plate in some real ways since three years ago. Have you given and shown appreciation for that? Take care of your bunny. Its your job.
