Whatis;
please don't feel like you have to leave me alone, I value your input and appreciate your insightful words, you stalker you. ;\)

Now for the rest of the story, for 26 years, my wife's response to stress/crisis in our relationship has been to find someone new. It happend several times when we were dating, and has happened several times since.

They have never been affairs, so to speak, but a way out. I have always been a DBer, even before I knew what that was. My response has always been "that is your choice to make". For most of my life I have tried to instill in her a sence of self and to build her self-esteem by helping her to accomplish things that she didn't think she could.

Over the last 10 years, I have taken a back seat to her life. I have done everything to help her be "the best she can be" in the testosterone infused world in which she lives. With only one exception, the people she has been attracted to are dominant alpha males.

She has always withdrawn from the role of wife and mother. Unfortunately my response has been to pick up the slack, which has allowed her to withdraw even further.

In an attempt to help her accomplish her goals, I have become an emasculated husband, and I don't think the current role that she has given me is helping my cause.

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Me 43, waw 44, 3 kids(D15,D12,S6)Married 19yr, together 27yr. Bomb 11/27/06, Separated 3/1/07 Divorce filed 4/18/07,

"Because it is in giving that we receive; In forgiving that we obtain forgiveness; In dying that we rise to eternal life" St. Francis