What if the underlying problem is a lack of respect. Your supposition is that by tolerating the affair for the sake of my "family", I am garnering some respect. I can see from my wife's perspective, this is not the case.
To answer GH's questions directly, my wife is the only woman I have ever been intimate with. I promised to respect her, I have. I promised to be faithful to her, I have. I promised to love her, I have. I promised to respect her, I have. I promised to honor her, and I have. Have I been perfect? H#ll no.
She is in a pit of self pity and despair, she has decided that the answer to all of her problems is a new R. She has decided that her happiness is more important then that of her family. She has decided that this ultimate act of disrespect is justified.
If she does not respect me, she will not return. It is not just macho, it is reality.
81388 Me 43, waw 44, 3 kids(D15,D12,S6)Married 19yr, together 27yr. Bomb 11/27/06, Separated 3/1/07 Divorce filed 4/18/07,
"Because it is in giving that we receive; In forgiving that we obtain forgiveness; In dying that we rise to eternal life" St. Francis
