I said: ------------------------------------------------ The question is; do you want to aggressively pursue repairing the relationship, even if that means a one-sided approach? ------------------------------------------------
You didn't answer me. How about some direct communication with me?
All the best, -NOPkins-
Sorry NOP, thought I sorta did. I have been doing the one sided approach and it has gotten me nowhere. I need my needs met too. I don't want our kids to grow up and think that it's alright to behave this way. We are not setting a good example for them.
Hairdog, I would get someone else to do the deck if we could afford it. H always has time off at Christmas as most suppliers close down (he is a carpenter), so we organised materials beforehand so he could get it done and go back to work after New Years. Trouble is, he still hasn't gone back to work and I don't make enough money to cover mortgage repayments so we have just about used up all our savings. Of course if I hadn't got sucked into believing his promise of 'it will be done in a few weeks', things would be different.
Funny about the ADD thing Hairdog, my mum actually said something about that the other day. I really don't think that is his problem though, as he can totally focus on fishing all the time!
It can't come quickly enough
And now you've spent your life
Waiting for this moment
And when you finally saw it come
It passed you by and left you so defeated.
Scissor Sisters - 'It Can't Come Quickly Enough'
