I think this is where I belong

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JBF, I agree with the above. Love 'em lots. Don't discuss the sitch with them. IMHO, ANYTHING you say, almost any question you ask (even ones like "did you and mom have fun yesterday') can make them feel like they are in the middle. They are kids, and need to be allowed to be kids without this crap in their lives.

I am often tempted to talk to my S15 about stuff. He's a great person, and a great friend, but he's a kid and my son first, and I know I need to protect him from this, even though he seems more like a man than a child these days (6'3" 198 lbs).

You did come to the right place. You're getting lots of good support.