I think the dancing thing is a terrific idea. Lou, if you go with the firm commitment to YOURSELF that NOTHING inappropriate will happen, it won't. Affairs, even EA's don't just happen. They happen because somewhere someone left a door or a window open just enough to let someone else into a zone that was reserved for the spouse. If you are aware of that... and Lou, I'm very sure that you are, there is NO danger. In my younger days, I sometimes tried to get the attention of a firmly married man, and it cannot be done. There has to be a chink open somewhere. Now, granted, Lou is in an SSM, but he is extremely AWARE of what is the line that must not be crossed. I think the the whole thing will blow BB off dead center pronto!
So what if she accuses you, Lou-- YOU'LL know it's not true. And if she wants to see for herself, she can join you.
