I've been quiet on your sitch because it is so different than mine that I felt I couldn't add anything at all. Nevertheless, I've been being a good grasshopper and listening intently.
Now that you've got a door open, would you consider a workshop on communication with your H? I specifically have WWME in mind, but I'm not sure it is a perfect fit for you or not. It is basically a weekend away where you focus on each other and learn techniques to communicate your feelings and being heard by each other. It does have a religious overtone, but that isn't a requirement to get something out of it. Your comment on not knowing how to communicate got me out of the woodwork.
