I have been crazy busy trying to get things accomplished before maternity leave. I'm not actually leaving until I have the baby but within about four weeks I need to be in a state of perpetual readiness so that when I go out I don't leave stuff undone, undelegated etc... I have eight weeks to go -give or take.
H and I had a terrific time on weekend trip, had sex twice (not too bad for someone in the last two months of pregnancy, talked constantly etc... We went to Ocean City, MD which has nothing in it to do this time of year so we didn't have many distractions. I don't R talk when we go on these trips. I approach them as if he were someone I was dating and the main goal is simply having a good time. He has an interesting initiation technique on trips - he just straightforwardly brings it up. He'll say, "I'm going to the bathroom, I'm going to brush my teeth and then I would like to have sex." It isn't very titillating but then again it is not timid or childish. It is, I suppose, a very "adult" way to approach things. I never think to respond in a playful way like "maybe/maybe not" or "catch me if you can", my response is usually, "ok then". Strangely, this is his usual vacation type initiation. It means that he has mentally planned to have sex which is better than the weekday grind when he doesn't seem to plan for it at all.
I did get waxed but he didn't comment.
I was reflecting on bf's comments on not finding postpartum women very sexually attractive but thinking that the paternal feelings probably overrode that. I think a few things. I can see that objectively a postpartum woman isn't very physically sexy. However, in my experience the power of sharing such an experience can (with the right partner) cause a closeness and bond that is sexual in nature - a warmer, loving, bonded kind of sexual experience. Also, I have never had an issue with providing an extra special bj during the six week hiatus. I also have learned to distinguish touching from my husband from the touching of children and everyone else - such that breastfeeding is sensual, not sexual but my husband's touch in that area is something else altogether. After baby #1 I learned to exercise some basic self care so I don't feel entirely unfeminine during that period of time - showering and putting on a little makeup and a decent outfit does wonders. I may not have time for the whole show but just a little self care improves my outlook and my H's view of me too. I loved my H more than anything when the very next day (less than 24 hours after having our baby) he says to the doc, "Now, I know that we aren't supposed to have sex for six weeks but can I still touch her?". The doc looked at me and him in shock - I don't think she'd ever heard that one before. She said something to the effect of "Uh, yeah. I guess. If she wants you to."
The next two weekends painting and steam cleaning commence on DS15's room and the baby's room. It is time to nest and get ready. I'm being sent to my parent's home because dh doesn't want me around the paint fumes or overdoing.
