What if some wonderful woman similar to Lou in age, interests, etc really wants to dance with him. LFL, Hi. The dancing part isn't a problem for me. What I have a problem with is the apperance of looking for female "just friends" and what if it felt so good to have someone thats my peer, really want me, and me liking it more than I should.
I could see an EA starting in short time. I know nothing would happen because of the guilt/ethics factor that resides within me.
Sometimes I thought about all of the lonely women on this forum and felt a little too attached/attracted but had enough of a moral compas to not take it any much farther than would have been good for anyone of us. I can tease and I can show empathy.
I had one woman mail me saying a group of the posters were having an EA by posting our inner thoughts/feelings. I reminded her that I was saying honestly how I felt, within the group, and we all had an understanding that we would be honest, avoid leaving out important information, but we were really working on our respective relationships, not trying to hook up.
I said , If any of the women lived close enough for me to go to see them I wouldn't post. Maybe the dance thing feels like close, and I am treading on dangerous ground.
So, I see some of your point LFL, and I see NOP's point. Upsetting the snowball, cow-pie cart (that is waht we heve here in MT) :0 is what needs to be done some more.
I think I can do that by going back to the weight watchers group and walking more. A little of cart upsetting is happening when we attend church functions.
I am way over the "no one would want me" and sort of told BB if "no one would want me" in her eyes, that is fine with me. She doesn't really know what some other people want and she has a false sense of how things work IRL.
The dance thing might work, but I have to get better at being poker faced and not throwing off "looking for OW" vibes to the point it would cause long term damage.
I know I can do most of this cart jousting with something like the weight group and me spiffing up a little more.
I still like the dance thing though.
I have several service calls to go on. By for a while.
