If you aren't looking, it will become apparent to BB. In the mean time, it won't hurt for her to have to wonder a bit. Please note, this would NOT be what I would recommend to other people. It does fit your situation however.
I'm quite surprised you are recommending this at all Nop. I mean why is Lou any different? Isn't he in a SSM, isn't he vulnerable to the affections of others when his spouse is not meeting his needs? What if some wonderful woman similar to Lou in age, interests, etc really wants to dance with him. What then? Why put himself in that position at all?
