Note is OK. It says too much. You are saying too much. Hun, you got to learn to zip it.
You don't need to ask him why he's calling or tell him not to call out of obligation -- that sounds like your desperate for him and *pretending* not to care. It's understandable. We all slip. But the steady course of your life now is to NOT discuss the OW. In fact take a break from talkiing about the relationship unless he initates it.
Trust me, he'll initiate lots of conversations. When you talk to him, don't be nasty, don't push him away. Be pleasant, cool and calm. Only be available to talk when you are composed, positive and sound like you really are OK.
You are not driving him away by playing coy and a little hard to get. Trust me, you will have plenty of opportunities to talk to him regarding kids, etc. During these opportunities, you will blow him away with your charm, poise, sexiness and cofidence. He'll begin to say to himself, "I gave up this amazing woman for the drama queen I'm living with now?"
Hun...I know this sounds crazy, but if you can walk the walk, and talk the talk, I feel like you are gonna smoke that bitch who took your huband. ;-)
Lonelyolive,
When I found the love-letters my wife sent the OM on our computer. I could barely look at it anymore. I began to hate computers.
