And tonight, I decided to go out instead of waiting around for H to come home from work. Met people I didn't know very well for happy hour; glad I did! I had a great time, and it helped put my focus back on me. I had a fabulous time!
Now THIS is you, SD. Not letting H's moods dictate yours, not depending on H for your happiness cos you know you have the resources within yourself. You are back at the place where having H in your life is a WANT, not a NEED and doesn't it feel good!?? Stopping the worry about H (or W)'s feelings/needs/wants and trusting them to ask you if they need something... that is what it's all about. I for one can't stay married to someone whose needs I always have to guess, so I've stopped guessing and started trusting H to come to me if he needs to. A bigger step to put into practise than it sounds, but you're getting there (oh, and so am I!!)
Woo YAY SD!!! Can I have your life cos it sounds FUN!!!
Bomb (ILYBINILWY, don't want to be married)Sept05 Seperated Sept/Oct 05 Oct 06 - H recomitted July 11 - I am now a WAW.
