Hi, Heartbroken, I just got caught up on your sitch, and I wondered when yall will tell your D12 about ow? I was unlucky in that my S who was 13 at the time was standing next to me when I found out about ow last summer. To see the look in his eyes, and then the anger when he started kicking his F's car, and throwing things. I took him to my C's with me and they talked some. It helped him, I believe, and he says he admires me for not just throwing H out and D him.
I live in a small town outside a large city, the city where ow lives, and she works at a local hospital where many of my S's friends M's work, so I am afraid of stories of them getting back to him. Like once where they were seen fondling each other in the parking lot, I know this because ow thought it was so funny that people saw them, and I heard the message on H's secret cell phone. When you said what you did about the "cold sores" or herpes, it made me wonder if ow was with my H, who else was she with? H says it was only EA, but who can believe that? I mean if their lips are moving, they are probably lying. When I think of what they could expose us and our kids to, ughhh!
I think you are handling things very well, you seem to be so calm, and I think your H will begin to appreciate this in you. Especially when the you know what hits the fan, with this whole drama.
