Hello,

I came to read your post since you have been so good within mine! I cannot do what you are doing. I basically pushed him to get an Apt. - but then he was just pushing to go and file for D so what is better? I figure they can now do their thing and it will not be such a fun fantasy life. It's going to suck being in a 1 BR apt with a twin daybed for a couch/bed. He says he's not even going to hook up cable (it's 50 dollars) - that will last 5 days!

They are like teenagers - and they will be their own demise. I told him their R is like a house of cards - built on nothing but lies and deceit. They have way to many issues to get over including 2 preteen kids that will hate what they did to their families.

I did tell him my friends may be hooking me up and am I allowed to date while he has his playtime?? He said he could not tell me no and still do his thing...

We shall see where this run.

I know I am better when he is not there giving me the Ow details - it just hurts to much. I am letting him go - I only want him if he truly wants me. Not because of duty, obligations, vows or anything else - because he WANTS TO BE WITH ME! Otherwise I do not want him back - I say this and I mean it I will get stronger each day. And he may make up his mind too late and then our kids will pay the price....:(


Me41 H44 * M16 yrs * D13 S10
8/06 H wants a D * 1/07 OW Truth
2/07 Searated * 7/07 H moved home
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