Sorry to hear about what is happening in your sitch.
If he doesn't think it is an A, he must be in denial. Must be a symtom of MIL.
Could your H not feel confident about taking care of your S on his own? Yes, he might miss OW but the issue may be he needs to have someone else there to help with caring for your S.
Don't feel too bad about mentioning D. There are times when just knowing what to expect helps us keep our sanity even if that means a D we don't want.
