8, I may not be the guy to give this advice right now but what the Hell! Why the rush? Affairs tend to last 9 months (according to DR), you're living month 3. How much chance have you given DBing here? If you are detaching then you are in a happy place where she can't touch you. So why not let it ride and work at your DB plan, GAL your butt off and see where it goes. There's no point trying to force her to go for counselling, trust me, I've heard every bizarre line imaginable regarding that! As the real world catches up with the happy couple, you will start to look pretty damn good. So why not give it more time. Now, that said, everyone has their own limit and i would never condemn anyone for knowing it and enforcing it BUT just make damn sure you know that limit is what you really want. You have to live with the results. Think hard, my friend.
