Life of Job

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Update;
Brother is doing well on anticoagulant therapy, BIL biopsy went well, 4-5 days before we know anything. W called w/ update on BIL.

Saw friends who work closely with W. They asked how I was and if I needed anything. That has become code for "I know that your wife is divorcing you." She has got to the point that she is saying "I am going through a divorce" in casual conversation.

The cool thing is I didn't care, now that is detachment. I told them we(the kids and I) were fine, and we would piece it all together no matter what happened. I said I didn't want to get divorced, but I didn't want her here if she didn't want to be here either, the cool part is I meant it!

It has taken 3 months to come to the conclusion that I deserve much more than she is willing to give at this point in time. I am not going out looking for revenge, nor am I throwing in the towel, but I am truely detaching.

I am still hopeful that this trip to visit BIL will turn something around, but I honestly have no expectations either way. If she comes home and signs are promising, I will let it ride and cont. w/ gal and DB. If signs are not, I will ask her one more time to discontinue her A and go to MC with me. If she declines, I will ask her to leave the house.

Her response will be that the house is still 1/2 her's and she will leave when she is ready. I will respond that it is time for OM to step up. If she wants to have A, then it needs to be on her own time and her own dime. I am done with this behavior of her's.

I know that this is not "good DB", but it is time to make a stand.