how to keep calm and patient??

[inpain]

Hi Rainbowlove

You are so right about men taking longer to heal. My H has mentioned things from years ago during our separation. I couldn't even remember some of them!

THINK POSITIVE! Your SL was good before, it will take time, but it will get there again. It's only natural. Don't be afraid

Hope you're right. H is being so like he was when we met it is killing me to not be able to even kiss him!! I seem to fall more in love every day - which is a good thing but it makes it harder and more frightening every day too. He doesn't seem to realise what effect even his smile has on me.

So positive affirmations and visualizations. Keep looking at your wedding pictures or happy pictures of the family and focus on that.... Then see it become real. Dreams do come true... Speaking from experience.

OK I will try my hardest Rainbowlove. At the moment when I look at our wedding pictures its mixed emotion I feel. I feel half happy remembering it but then half sad that H doesn't feel like he did then right now. I am tending to use more recent things that H may have said or done to try to keep positive. Like the other day he said he missed me calling him by a pet name when we were separated - I think that shows he loves me deep down in his heart. I broke the frame of one of our wedding pictures in despair the day H dropped the bomb. It is hidden away. When I'm sure we have made it I'll have to reframe it.

Sending you loads of love and positive thoughts. You are doing great Inpain. You've DBed successfully. You're a hero to us all here. We're counting on you. Do it for us if not for you! So happy that you were able to not get into ML convo with H and that he acknowledged. You guys are so meant to be...I can feel it. There is enormous amounts of love there dear....

Thank you so much for the compliments! Gosh that's a lot of people counting on me!! no pressure then! I was pleased I managed a whole day without ML convo and I managed it again today!!! Its funny you said H and I are meant to be...that is what I kept on saying to everyone around me who thought I was crazy doing this DBg and not just getting over him. I kept on saying "I love him and I just can't believe we're over, we're supposed to be together forever" Hopefully I was right and this is the start of my wonderful new M! Thank you so much for your posts Rainbowlove they really help me a lot.