Calling Cobra...Hairdog to Cobra, come in, Cobra.... Isn't this the next level of Schnarch's sexual crucible? Kind of the "role playing" level? Isn't it about pushing your partner to the next level of discomfort, which can create the sexual intimacy necessary for both of you to achieve ... uh achieve ... (trying to remember what Schnarch called it)... sexual nirvana or something??
NJ, I'd urge you to try it with an open mind. I, too, think he was being radically honest with you.
Hairdog, who'd give his left nut (not really) to be in Mr.NJ's shoes tonight. Wait. He probably won't be wearing his shoes.