Ok, I know that all R talk should be intiated by H but I have been wondering if he is not trying to open that door??? Lately H has been doing a lot of "we" talk and stating things that "we" will do in the future. Should I take that opportunity to ask him to be more clear or if he is ready for a reconciliation?
For example the other night at dinner H said that "we" would use the VA to get a home loan. All I wanted to do was ask:
"When do you think we could look into that?" or "Are you saying you want to live together again and stay M but just not right now?"
I am too scared to ask H these things because I think he may shut down and will pull WAY back if he had not intended to give me false hope. I guess a better question would be:
"I am not sure how to respond to that, what do you mean exactly?"
Any advice or suggestions would help. I feel like a fool for getting so excited about this. I mean we still live apart and have had no official reconciliation talk with the exception of H talking about future plans to include me! Thanks in advance for your time
