That's EXACTLY it, HD -- quite simply, it goes like this:
Woman: "You are not sexy to me, because you are not confident." Man: "But I am not confident, because I am not sexy to you and you've therefore rejected (or avoided) me sexually."
If THAT, and the following, aren't the world's two biggest proofs that GOD HAS A SENSE OF HUMOR, I don't know what is.
Woman: "In order to want to have sex with you, I need for our relationship to be strong." Man: "I need to have sex with you in order for our relationship to be strong."
